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Many of us were conditioned to believe that happiness is a goal that can be attained if we make good decisions, educate ourselves from our experiences, and keep moving onwards.

We’re told that if we find it, we’ll be eternally happy, so we live our lives feeling anxious and insufficient, chasing this goal and never questioning whether it’s blemished.

Happiness is not a destination, as many people believe. It’s a mindset, and it’s not only unfeasible, but also undesirable to be in it all of the time. Life is messy and unpredictable. It’s natural to have ups and downs.

According to Locaso (2022), the people who felt the most fulfilled were those who had learnt to let go of the need to be happy all of the time and had not only accepted but also come to love the ups and downs that derive from being alive. This mental and behavioral adjustment enabled them to welcome uncertainty, accept emotions (both happy and negative), and adapt to their surroundings with purpose and meaning.

Individuals who adjust, open doors to new possibilities. The lesson here is that just because you may not have complete power over your surroundings, you do have power over yourself and over your decisions, especially those that effect your mental and emotional well-being.


Locaso, P., 2022. What You Were Taught About “Happiness” Isn’t True. [online] Harvard Business Review. Available here [Accessed 23 May 2022].